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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it very hard as I have the opposite problem. I try to step back, and my college kids constantly want my advice, input, help. I don't think a single day has gone by without one of them having some small, medium or large dilemma about something. Today it's my ds who has a summer job offer but not the job he truly wants, and how to juggle this offer with this other job he wants but is waiting on a response for, and this other third job...I find it exhausting and I do not want to give input. I often resist and do not, but then it weighs on me.[/quote]

This is a cautionary tale for you parents out there will kids who are middle/high school. They are like this because:

a. They have not formed judgement because they were always told what to do/like
b. If they have opinions, they don't trust them
c. They want your thoughts because they are afraid you will come in with an opinion later; why not just cut to the chase
d. They are so afraid of failure or a misstep since they have been told forever that a mistake could "ruin their chances at" x, y, or z
d. They know you don't trust them
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Or, f., they are the type of people who like to discuss their issues and respect  their parents’ opinions (doesn’t mean they don’t respect other opinions, including their own and doesn’t even mean they will take the advice).[/quote]
PP here, correcting my option  to f.[/quote]

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