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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it very hard as I have the opposite problem. I try to step back, and my college kids constantly want my advice, input, help. I don't think a single day has gone by without one of them having some small, medium or large dilemma about something. Today it's my ds who has a summer job offer but not the job he truly wants, and how to juggle this offer with this other job he wants but is waiting on a response for, and this other third job...I find it exhausting and I do not want to give input. I often resist and do not, but then it weighs on me.[/quote]

This is a cautionary tale for you parents out there will kids who are middle/high school. They are like this because:

a. They have not formed judgement because they were always told what to do/like
b. If they have opinions, they don't trust them
c. They want your thoughts because they are afraid you will come in with an opinion later; why not just cut to the chase
d. They are so afraid of failure or a misstep since they have been told forever that a mistake could "ruin their chances at" x, y, or z
d. They know you don't trust them
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Speak for yourself, please. 
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Yeah, I'm the former poster and none of that applies. My kids are not ultra high expectations kids raised in a high pressure environment, and they have made plenty of mistakes. [/quote]

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