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[quote=Anonymous]My husband had an emotional affair 5 years ago with a woman he met through his work/travels, who works in the same high-powered field as him. It was short-lived (~1 month of intense texting/flirting) but really shook my world and our marriage. He ended it as soon as I found out (he did not disclose; I saw her number pop up on his phone), and as far as I know, he has been no-contact since it ended. We went to therapy, and things have been quite good since then. He has been an amazing husband--kind, loving, considerate.

This evening, he has a meeting with a woman who matches the exact description (same age, race/ethnicity, position) as the woman he had the affair with. He told me about it this morning, and when I jokingly told him to be careful, he told me she is a very nice person and that I should join them bc she may have some insights into some projects I am working on (I declined b/c that would be weird). I have met this woman before socially, and she is nice (and smart, very pretty, and independently wealthy), but I felt she took an extra interest in my husband when we met. They have a ton in common, and she does have a lot to offer my husband's company (hence the meeting to discuss collaboration and funding). She is not married, but I know she is very actively looking for a partner (she disclosed this when we met). They are meeting at a very nice restaurant (common for my company meetings).

I thought I had gotten over it, but I have been having trouble breathing all day. My stomach feels heavy. I feel very anxious. I guess I'm not over it, and this is what PTSD is like. I don't feel like I can say anything else to my husband b/c I have no reason to be suspicious. I would sound crazy.  
Is this what it is going to be like forever? This indicates to me that I don't trust my husband either, which I thought I had come to over the last 5 years. Will I never actually trust him again? It feels horrible.

Not sure what I'm asking for--just venting and hoping someone has advice or has experienced something similar to commiserate.

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