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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girlfriend, if you don't have the energy now as a childless couple, I doubt you will ever have more than one.  If you are this tired now you might also want to consider how you are going to handle the real exhaustion that comes from taking care of a small child.  We are TTC #2 now and the reality is if this is a priority, you make the time for it and suck it up.  You're currently childless - why can't you just have sex first thing when you get home?  [/quote]

I know I can only handle one child.  I am not a very high energy person.  Next cycle we need to plan better, get way more sleep so I have more energy when I come home.  Right when I come home is when I have the least energy--drained from the workday.  I need an hour to recharge, and then eat dinner, and then I have a bit more energy.  Sex is also quite painful for me, so this is a factor also.  Gyn has not been of any help with that problem.[/quote]

Lube?  Try pre-seed.  What kind of jobs do you guys do?  Why are you so low-energy?  Could their be dietary/fitness issues at play?  Not trying to be snarky at all, but you may want to think these things through a bit.  We changed a lot of our health habits after having a child.  They are a huge demand on your time and energy and saying "mommy is too tired" just doesn't work.  [/quote]

OP here.  I got tons of bloodwork done in the last few months to prepare for TTC.  They found nothing.  I am just a low energy person.  Always have been.  I need 9 solid hours of sleep to feel good, otherwise I feel tired and dragging.  DH has a very high stress, 80 hour per week job, my job is a normal job but it tires me out--very busy.[/quote]

Bloodwork doesn't really address dietary issues that might affect your energy level, though.  Eating well - especially lots of fresh produce - has helped us a lot, as has getting more exercise.  Forcing yourself to exercise will eventually pay off in this regard.  Just saying you might want to think about other ways you can have a positive impact on your energy level other than trying to "store sleep."  It will serve you well while TTC, while pregnant, during childbirth, and definitely when dealing with the sleep deprivation that comes from taking care of a newborn.  [/quote]

NP here. I agree with everything this PP is telling you, OP. I have a toddler and it is the most demanding, exhausting thing in the world to have a young child (and caring for a newborn is literally the most exhausting thing I have ever done).

I also think you need to figure out why you are so tired -- if you don't have energy for sex, you may not have energy for a baby. I think adding exercise and examining your diet (do you eat a lot of starch? Do you eat a lot of processed food? Too much caffeine or alcohol?) is a good start.

No matter what, when you have a child, you have to suck it up or make changes. You can't be "low energy" with someone who depends on you for everything.[/quote]

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