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[quote=Anonymous]My ds - a smart kid with a 3.6 GPA, 1550 SAT, and strong ECs - was accepted ED to his first choice school. Not HYP, but a T20 private university, and he is thrilled. One of his best friends was deferred by his top choice (HYP) early and ended up with 3-4 very solid choices from RD (most T20). He is 'that kid' - almost perfect GPA, high rigor, 1600 SAT, excellent ECs, and just a charming kid, if you know what I mean. I imagine his LORs were amazing - he's always chosen to represent our HS on panels, etc.

His top choice right now is the same school my ds is going to, and it's caused a weird tension in their relationship, where he jokes around that he should have 'coasted through HS too.' My son is not 'that kid' - he's amazing (to me!) and is a very smart and interesting kid, who has achieved at very high levels in certain areas - but he doesn't kill himself over grades and his LORs were probably more along the lines of 'smart kid, keeps to himself.' He got almost all Bs freshman year, and had a scatter of Bs throughout the rest of HS, took the SAT once without prep. So basically, he did not work nearly as hard at academics and did not do nearly as well.

But college admissions are crazy - folks on this board would say my kid should not have gotten into the school he did (honestly he was surprised), and I am amazed his friend does not have his pick of T10 schools, and that his early didn't snap him up.

The friend is asking ds to room with him - they are VERY good friends, but ds doesn't want to. While it would be easier for him, because he is not nearly as outgoing as his friend, he feels like it would be good for him to go with a random roommate, but isn't sure how much of that is based on the tension between them now. He asked my advice. What would you say? It would really make freshman year easier for him to room together, but it would probably be good for him to put himself out there and meet new people.

I told ds this could all be moot and his friend could get off the waitlist for Yale or Brown in May - which I think should happen! But I am just sitting here wondering what to advise - roommate requests can go in now. Sorry for the long post - single mom, so I don't have another adult to talk this out with right now. [/quote]

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