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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid is like me in some ways and unlike me in others.

I actually find it easier to deal with the stuff that is dissimilar. I think when your kid takes after you in certain ways, it can be harder to view them objectively and as separate from you. My kid has a lot of the same social tendencies as me, which can be both good and bad, and I definitely get up in my feelings about that stuff way more than I do when dealing with, for instance, her aversion to sports (even though I'm very sporty/outdoorsy). When your kid is similar to you, it can trigger memories from your own childhood, or lead you to mimic the way your parents parented you, which you might not even like. It's kind of a mind game at times.[/quote]

Agree with this!

I have one kid that is so similar to me but looks nothing like me and another kid who looks exactly like I did at her age but her personality is so, so different. They can both do things to frustrate me, but I definitely find myself extra mad/anxious when I see my bad qualities in my son. It’s like I’m angry at myself or something. I can’t really explain it but I’m able to be more objective when parenting my DD who is nothing like me. [/quote]

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