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[quote=Anonymous]DD13’s close friend moved about three hours away mid–school year. It’s been a mix of emotions; DD was really sad to lose the day-to-day friendship, but if I’m honest, this was also a friend whose in-person influence we’d been a bit concerned about as they head toward high school.

They’re still in touch occasionally  (phone/FaceTime), which we’re fine with. The complication is that another family in their old friend group has already done a full weekend visits—driving their child there, dropping off, then picking up Sunday—and now DD is asking if we can do the same.

For a few reasons, we’re not eager to go down that road—the distance/time commitment, and more importantly, wanting to encourage DD to invest in friendships that are local and sustainable, especially with high school coming up, plus knowing nothing of the supervision situation so far from home. We’re happy for her to stay connected, just not to make regular long-distance visits a thing.

How would you explain this in a way that feels fair and not overly controlling? I want to be honest without sounding like we’re just banning the friendship outright.[/quote]

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