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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he was in his 80s like so many parents today, lots of children have made peace with that and are just hoping for a good and noble end to lives well lived. We need to stop thinking or wanting people to live forever. [/quote]

Grief does not mean we wanted or expected someone to live forever. I’ve lost people unexpectedly (car accident) as well as after a long illness. There are differences but I miss them equally. It sort of showed up for me over a longer period of time than the immediate aftermath, when I would want to talk to them, or look forward to how they would react to good news, etc.

Everyone finds their own path, but I love the idea about making a meal the FIL would have loved, and just referencing that briefly at the meal.[/quote]
I think everyone grieves differently, too, especially men, who tend to be more stoic, even in situations where the loss was unexpected. Some people crumble, some people employ radical acceptance and move on. They’re no right or wrong way. If you’d like to bring him up, do that. [/quote]

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