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[quote=Anonymous]^^ I agree with the above. I don't consider drinking in high school to be a big deal (I did it! I think even my parents did it!) We are lucky that no one in our family has alcohol addiction issues, though. I think if I saw that tendency in us firsthand, I would be more scared.

But I would much rather have my kid figure out alcohol while living under my roof than at college. How to decide when to drink, how much to drink, how to deal in the moment if you're more drunk than you want to be, how to deal with pressure if there is any, how to deal with drunk friends who might make worse decisions, how to get home, how to take care of yourself when you feel poorly and have homework -- these are all decisions they'll make in college and in life. I'd rather them deal with it when I'm there to advise, support, or share sympathy (a hangover is no fun, even if it's your fault.)

If your kid confessed to you, that is a sign that they feel safe with you. I hope you feel good and proud about that, OP. Then it's a moment to share your values, whatever they are: In this family, we don't drink to get drunk except a few times a year, and never before age 21. In this family, we only drink if we're in a controlled situation with people we know. Or whatever it is. Then you see how they take it in, what they think feels reasonable, and what they think they might struggle with. You can offer experiences from your own life if it feels useful. Just today, I told my son about what I did when someone followed me home from the bus stop when I was 14. He really locked in. Different situation, but same context: it's a big wide world, we are lucky to have choices, most people are kind but some are not; here's how to handle it.  [/quote]

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