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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the feedback. We are in the process of setting up a budget system that allows her more control. She's 13 and I suspect that she does want more independence. I dont understand why she's mad that we didn't pay full price for the Lululemon clothes.
Its like she's associating the quality with the cost. Which I can understand if the choice is between two different brands. Why would we not take advantage of a sale at a brand that usually costs more? 
To the pp that asked about the phone. Yes, I think she consumes too much youtube (no TikTok) which is adding to the problem. 
My bigger problem is that she doesn't seem to want to work for money. I've asked her what she's willing to do to earn spending money and she's yet to come up with anything. 
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It's her problem she doesn't want to work for money, not your problem. Change your thinking around that and stop being so upset she's upset.

The way I make a budget for clothes is we look realistically at how many shirts are needed (last time it was 10 because a lot were grown out) and I set a reasonable average price per shirt and multiplied that by the number of shirts. I added a tiny buffer.

My DD is then free to spend it on shirts she picks as long as she gets 10 shirts. Some cost double the average and some cost $3-5 at thrift stores or Ross/TJ Maxx. It teaches tradeoffs. I monitor and advise but my comments are more like if you get that, you won't be able to get more at that price without getting some really inexpensive ones. I help some with the math.

I don't comment on which brands I think are worth it or not. Ultimately you want her to be able to think for herself to be able to function in the real world. Also mistakes and regrets are part of this, but let them be hers and not something she's blaming you for. Plus it's amazing what they no longer want when they're making the choices. Of course they want and want and want everything when it's your (essentially pain-free) money.[/quote]

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