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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You shouldn't have offered to get the sushi that you didn't want. He was already in charge of the pizza, but you changed that. He no longer had to be in charge of that. It feels like you led yourself right into that one. If you were worried he wouldn't get the pizza, then I wouldn't have said anything and just gotten a back-up that you wanted.

I am guessing that you need some techniques to better deal with him.

I would text him every single day before you start making dinner. Verifying that you are eating here tonight. If he then doesn't show up, you can start showing him the pattern.

Also, realistically, how often does this happen. Once a month? A few times per week? That makes a difference. If he does it a lot, stop making dinner that he would want and just make what you would make for you and the kids (though the things you mention don't sound healthy to eat regularly) and make enough for him.

Basically, don't wait until he's late. If he's going to act like a teenager, treat him like one.

Also, has he always done this? Or is this more recent?[/quote]
It’s always been an issue but more frequent within the past 2-3 years. I’d say it happens once a week, or at the very least, once every two weeks. So 2-4 times a month.

It’s just that it feels so blatantly disrespectful. He knows I would like him to simply communicate the change of plans. He also knows I enjoy these “nights off” (when he does let me know) so it’s almost like a reward for him to tell me. I can’t understand why he can’t simply text as soon as he knows there is a change in routine. It’s starting to feel weaponized, but I can’t figure out what he gains from upsetting me with this. [/quote]

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