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[quote=Anonymous]I also have three, and also had bad PPD after my second, and my older kids were also 3 and 5 when #3 came along (1 year ago) so we have a lot in common! I did not have PPD after #3, and I wish you the same!

One big difference though - I'm in DC, so both my 3 and 5 year old were in full-time school when #3 came along.

I would put in a STRONG vote for nighttime, starting at 2 weeks when your husband goes back to work. Everything, everything, everything in a house goes better when mom is well rested. It's the rising tide that lifts all boats. After not doing so when the first two were born, we had a postpartum doula/night nanny 4 nights a week for about 10 weeks (weeks 3-12) when the baby was born and the difference was dramatic. Our HHI income is not a number where you would think we would have done that, ha. But everything else becomes manageable when you're getting sleep. It's honestly the best money I've ever spent.

I will also say that while my 5 year old adjusted with no bumps, the bumps with the 3 year old came later than expected. When the baby was about 4-6 months old? At first it was new and exciting and lots of people visited and paid her extra attention and brought gifts (saints. And also anytime someone said "Oh I want to bring a gift for the baby, what do you need?" I said "please nothing we have absolutely everything we could possibly need for a baby, but the big kids would LOVE a little something" and that worked out awesome.) I think once things settled into a routine is when she was like... wait a minute. I get less of mom and dad's attention... forever? and she had a few months of being really clinging. I planned a lot of 1:1 time with her during that time (as did my husband) and that really helped. It was also (conveniently) right about the time when baby was in a good routine and we had the bandwidth to do that.

Congrats and good luck! I don't know exactly how close together your older two are in age, but I found three under six DRAMATICALLY easier than two under two. And the night nanny really helped with that![/quote]

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