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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he had a friend who treated him the way his parents do, would it be this hard for you to support him? Have you asked him where he is with things? Are you afraid of just repeating the cycle over and over, or are you afraid this is truly the end of their relationship? Do you hope they will repair things and what do you think that could look like realistically?[/quote]
OP here.

I am afraid the cycle will repeat forever.

To clarify for other posters, and to you, we have discussed this. He has said, and repeated, that he’s done unless they can make changes to their behavior. When I ask him to explain what that would look like, he can’t, and just explains that the need to change their behavior. I understand what the behavior is, so it makes sense. But I know they will never change, so I wonder why he thinks they can or will. It feels like a placeholder, like if he keeps saying “if they change”, then he doesn’t have to accept cutting them off forever. It just feels like the door is cracked for them to get in, and it is very unsettling. [/quote]

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