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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is newly estranged from his local, toxic, parents. We’ve been together nearly 20 years, and during that time I’ve dutifully participated in the relationship, even while struggling with the dynamic.

DH has been in therapy, and I was starting to see real progress. Then a major event happened that made me realize I could no longer be part of the unhealthy dynamic, and that I couldn’t allow my children to be part of it either. I was preparing to have a serious conversation with him about boundaries (and possibly an ultimatum), but he surprised me by cutting them off before I even got there.

Now we’re coming up on nine months, and I find myself struggling every week with the uncertainty and “limbo” of it all. There was no formal declaration of no contact, just a phone conversation that became, unofficially, the last communication. Since then, holidays, birthdays, and other milestones have passed without so much as a text.

And yet, every week I catch myself wondering, will this be the week they reach out and the cycle starts all over again? Because realistically, they’re not going to suddenly change after a lifetime of this behavior, and I’d be back where I was before when I was going to have my serious conversation, only now HE is far removed emotionally from that day.

If you’ve been in a similar situation as a spouse, how did you get past this limbo stage?[/quote]

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