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[quote=Anonymous]My mom has been caring and sweet during her younger years, but at 75, she has become mean spirited, rude and unkind.  Some days I think she is just fed up that she had a miserable life where she catered to everyone and no one (including my dad) took care of her.  Other days I feel she had pretended all her life to toe the “be a good girl” line (she is the eldest of 5 and always has been the rescue ranger). Now her true color is showing since she finally didn’t need to care. She judges me constantly.  Worst yet she judges my kids even though both are very accomplished.  She judges how DH handles our finances. She says racist things and defenses them.  She lacks proper education but feels she knows everything and everyone is dumb compared to her.  She is so proud that she won’t let the one person who wants to care for her (aka me) do anything nice.  I try to take her out (to the mall, to the beach, to see my kids who are away) to spend time with her. She tells me these things are such a waste of time and she is too old to do anything outside her house.  I try to buy her gifts, things she likes but never had the stomach to spend $$$ on.  She returns them all.  I try to go over to see her at her house, but she rushes me out as she doesn’t need to be bothered.  But she complains she never got to travel and live the good life she deserves because of her siblings (whom she took care of), because of dad, because of me (the only child), because of my kids (who she was close to at one point and now are all living in other states). DH thinks she is just fed up w life, not with any one person.  But all of us are just nearby as collateral for her to lash out at.  I am so incredibly sad to watch one of the nicest person, most selfless person I know turning into a monster I don’t recognize. Old age really sucks.

I am not afraid of aging physically, but I am scared of aging badly mentally.  I love my family, love the life I have built w DH, love the time I have and shall continue to have w my children.  I just hope i don’t turn into that nasty old person when in 30 years.[/quote]

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