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[quote=Anonymous]BTDT, OP. Big hugs.

I had to stay on top of all that stuff with my severely ADHD teen (+ ASD, low processing, learning disabilities) until he left for college. There was no margin for error. In college, a burden was lifted off both our shoulders, because he had fewer demands on his time, fewer classes, fewer structured activities outside of school and blessedly, he could sleep in instead of waking up before dawn to commute to his school. He still has accommodations for final exams, and this resulted in messy situations where he forgot to schedule a special time to take his exams, etc... but he resolved those on his own, and survived. He didn't have to juggle a hundred balls in the air like in high school, and therefore, could do it all without us! So don't be too concerned for college. All you have to do is get him in there.

Since I had no option but to be his scheduler and issue reminders all the damn time in high school... I made sure to reiterate that I was doing this because I loved him, and that I did not want him to close doors for himself before college. That in college, he was perforce going to be dealing with a lot of this stuff himself. But until then, I was going to be the administrative side of his life.  And occasionally yell at him.

My husband drove him to school and tutored him in math for a year (after which he threw up his hands and paid for a tutor). That was the extent of his involvement.

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