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[quote=Anonymous]OP here; thank you everybody for your thoughtful feedback! I think just getting it out there helped me take a bit of a breath.

The feelings just got intensified today as dd and I were talking about planning her birthday party for next month. Usually a happy occasion, she seems just a bit lost on where she fits in with friendships, who to invite, etc. She’s an only child and is on the younger side of her grade (as is L) and I think she thinks the other girls have it figured out while she doesn’t. She has just been adrift this whole year and is worried other girls she invites to her birthday party would think it’s weird since they’re not super close. (Obviously I tell her no - what a fun opportunity to get a bunch of girls together to do something fun! She doesn’t believe me).

I’ve been beating the drum of diversifying friendships for years and to be wary of putting all of her eggs in one basket. She just… prefers one on one interactions to big groups, so the friendship worked out well for them both (until it didn’t, obviously!). She’s involved in other things - Girls on the Run, club soccer, etc. - but she has a hard time prioritizing connecting with others more deeply because she’s kind of waiting for L to come back?

I also totally understand I don’t have the whole story, so I appreciate that feedback as well. L had a tough kindergarten year and my dd befriended her during that time - they both seemed so into each other and the parents needed help with aftercare, etc. I was just trying to be nice and follow the girls’ lead, and everything felt super reciprocated by all parties until, again obviously, it wasn’t.

Again thanks all for your feedback. I’ll refrain from reaching out to mom (I’ve started a text so many times but have held off - thank you; I’m sure that’s what I needed to hear) and continue to navigate tricky friend stuff alongside her. I know in the grand scheme of things what happens at 9 is a blip on the radar — this has just felt like such a huge blip that’s left dd very discombobulated and unsettled. [/quote]

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