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[quote=Anonymous]Dd had been best friends with a girl (L) since kindergarten. L’s parents were kind of unorganized, so I took it upon myself to help L get involved in soccer, gymnastics, etc with my daughter - I even picked them up from school multiple days a week to get them to and from these activities. They were inseparable: sleepovers, matching Halloween costumes, etc. All cute stuff. Although my DH and I were the primary organizers of activities, L’s parents were always nice, responsive, appreciative, etc.

Now the thing is they weren’t “cool” - like they weren’t in the popular group (I’d say whatever that means in 3rd grade but I think we all know exactly what that means) but they were seemingly fine with it. Until this year.

At the beginning of the school year, L totally dropped my daughter to get in with that popular crowd. Now she vacillates between ignoring my daughter or being straight up mean (saying go away when my dd comes up to her and her new friends). Her parents have also become totally unresponsive: they doing reply to texts, they pulled L from a shared gymnastics class that we mutually agreed on earlier, and they act like they don’t see us when we’re in public. Just… ghosted.

Now the thing is when the cooler girls aren’t around, L is nice to dd. She did a makeup gymnastics class just last week and the two were giggling and having a great time! Now my dd is confused - she keeps thinking L is her best friend as “their roots are deep together” (her words) and she has no idea why L is treating her like this.

I don’t know what to say, either. Do I reach out to the mom and be like what’s up? Do I counsel her away from L even though she’s convinced they’re still best friends? How big of a deal is this when they’re 9, anyway? (I’m obviously crushed but can totally admit I might be blowing it out of proportion in the grand scheme of things). Just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation, what you did as a parent, what the outcome was, etc.

Thank you!  [/quote]

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