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[quote=Anonymous]I think at 3 months, I'd start with a conversation rather than a declaration.

"I know this has been a really hard time for you, and I'm glad I've been able to help you out. However, I don't think this arrangement is going to work for either of us indefinitely. Have you started thinking about what your next steps will be?"

Then listen. See where he is, what he's thinking. If he clearly hasn't thought much about it yet, it's fine to leave it there and come back to it a month later. "Have you thought more about what I said and what your next steps are?"

I wouldn't do anything like "Okay, you need to make other living arrangements by X date" until you've crossed the six month mark, at least, but I think it makes sense to start the conversation about it now.

It also may make sense to stop making it so cushy (if you have been). Ex: Are you doing all the cooking and cleaning? I think it simultaneously makes sense to start pushing some tasks over to him for the short term. [/quote]

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