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[quote=Anonymous]If academically the school the fine, then absolutely not. Moving to private isnt going to magically change their social life to be more of what they want. If they aren't the cool kids or arent popular with the girls, or whatever, that isn't going to change by changing schools. And in high school, frankly, breaking into a clique is hard. They are well established by then.

Beyond that,  I'd argue they are going to feel even more estranged by moving. The minute you set foot in the $25 to $30,000 a year private school business, you have to realize that there are going to be families there for whom that's just a two week paycheck. While thats not true in every case of course, on average, you are going to see a lot more money. That means that when summer comes along its going to be "Tommy and Jack are going to Italy, can I go too?" and "Brittany is going to WISP this weekend to ski, can I go?" and "Jack is doing a 10 week summer camp in Utah, I want to go as well" ... to say nothing of the fact that a lot of the kids will have sizable allowances (read: "Dad can I borrow $50, the guys want to go to XXX Friday night", or if you have a daughter maybe more about clothes), many will be driving luxury cars, will live in big houses, etc.

If they feel out of place now, be careful, moving to private may make them feel even more so. I'm not saying that learning that some people have more and others dont is bad or something to be ashamed of, but to a 15 year old, the distinction is much harder. When it gets time to go to the mall and everyone but your kid has money to go to lunch or shopping, he or she is going to feel really awful. So then you can either force them to accept this reality, or you can cave and try to keep up with the other families. Neither solution is a good one.

Stay the fuck put.
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