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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not tell her to call less.  I might though be busy now and then.  Sorry we missed you we decided to go see a movie, get ice cream, walk with the neighbors.go to the library..whatever.[/quote]

I think this is a good idea. It signals that you still care but also gently sets limits AND models some of the exact things she could be trying as well (getting ice cream, taking a walk with someone, etc.)

I had debilitating adjustment issues and social anxiety in college and what I desperately wish someone had told me is that it simply takes *time and repetition* to build familiarity and connection. Try the club or music group for a full year, etc (not just a few weeks or whatever) even if it’s uncomfortable at first.

I ended up hastily transferring schools bc I had trouble making friends at my first one; while the transfer did help me in some ways, the anxiety still followed me and it took deeper work (into adulthood) to unpack and develop some helpful coping mechanisms.[/quote]

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