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[quote=Anonymous]She calls me every day. Then she relies on us for conversation which tbh we don't have that much going on bc we work during the week and after work we talk to her! I would not mind a quick hey, love you, miss you type call but this is long calls and her relying on us as a sounding board/entertainment for 30+ minutes.

We've suggested various groups and she has tried them: language clubs, sports, other groups. She goes, then decides she doesn't like it enough and does not go again. So aside from her roommates (who she gets along with fine but not more than that) she is by herself unless in class, her campus job (has met nobody there) or study groups. Tonight again she called to say she was thinking of going to an event, but after all she won't. I am sick of hearing it and so is dh, the constant dance of telling her you should go, then she mostly doesn't or goes and declares it was a waste of time.

We were thinking of maybe putting up a boundary of saying daily texts are fine, but no daily call: just go do things and then tell us about them another day, so we are not such a crutch to her. Do you think this is a bad idea? We have this going on with ds (who is older) naturally and calls are so much better because we have so much more to say to each other, he's doing things and telling us about them. [/quote]

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