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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How did you feel if your child found their birth mom and decided to meet? Going through this now with my adopted late 20's DD and have a variety of emotions going on, including feeling insulted as this other woman gave her up for adoption while I raised her.[/quote]

Your emotions are totally normal. However, it is important to put them aside a present a supportive, positive, but realistic demeanor to your daughter.

She deserves to know the story of where she came from and about other biological relatives. She did not choose for any of this to happen to her, and she did not ask to have you adopt her.

However, many people who make the decision to place their child for adoption do have challenging circumstances which make it hard on both sides for them to connect in the way your daughter may be hoping.

Best case scenario she has an ongoing positive relationship with another set of people who love her. Worst case scenario she regrets pursuing this relationship or they don’t want to meet her. Either way she needs you in her life as a support who continues to love her. [/quote]

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