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[quote=Anonymous]I sympathize with both points of view, if adult children move just when their parent might start needing some help.

I moved far away, across the Atlantic, in my early 20s, when my parents were fit and healthy and it didn't seem like such an abandonment. Indeed, my father had moved the same distance from his parents in his early 20s. Now my parents are frail and my father is seriously ill, but there's no expectation I will move back. I made my life here. They accept that.

If your move is set in stone, you have to try to sell your mother on nursing homes, if she can afford one. If you can just persuade her to join some tours of local ones, she might realize that they're actually not as bad she envisions...
My MIL also swore never to leave her home, but she can afford round the clock care in her own home, with two adult kids who are local enough to visit regularly, and the nursing homes in her area are pretty rough.

Likewise, if you mother can afford at-home care and you can agree to a set number of visits per year... maybe that can work.
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