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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would just do more stuff without asking his opinion. Just hire the handyman.

On the kid stuff, you have to decide if it is bad enough to divorce. Truthfully, I have a kid with profound SN. Like, she is a teenager and we have to change diapers, feed her, etc. If we weren’t equal partners on this, we likely would have divorced. It has to be a huge part of why divorce is so high with profound SN. But, I would likely not to divorce over my other kid that has mild inattentive ADHD. As she gets older, she can figure out how to get her needs met on her own. Only you can decide.

If I truly thought my husband thought I was stupid, I would be losing my mind. I’m totally confident I how smart I am as well, but I would find this super disrespectful. And would objectively mean he is a moron since it is pretty objectively clear that I'm smart — not about every topic, but a whole lot of them.[/quote]
Sadly, I realize I’ve started disconnecting more because it’s easier.

Until recently, I’ve been reticent to use the language that we are raising a SN kid because our needs are nowhere near the level of yours. For my own mental health, I have to acknowledge that constant vigilance of my kid’s emotional state, the consequences for their sibling, constantly changing or opting out of plans, managing every single interaction, etc. for my neurodivergent kid is still draining for me — a highly emotional and empathetic person.

It’s weird because when he does this, I think to myself “I thought he was smart so why is he being so incredibly stupid?”

Any men on here have any insight? [/quote]

Wait, so you are completely reasonable, approach him with issues appropriately, and seek only good-faith partnership responses from him, and his responses are uniformly unreasonable for no apparent reason whatsoever?

Golly, beats me. Maybe explain the moron thing one more time. That might help.[/quote]

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