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[quote=Anonymous]Same, girl. From what I've read here on DCUM, it's VERY common for women to feel this way once they hit middle age.

I agree with PP that for women, our entire lives are spent giving to and caring for others. After kids, divorces, jobs, etc, you hit a point where you just don't have much to give. So even small requests feel like massive demands.

Also, does your time with your SO feel reciprocal? One thing I realized in my last relationship was that time spent together really felt like time spent entertaining him.

For example, an evening together felt exhausting for me because we'd have to figure out a dinner we would both eat (I eat very healthy, he eats mostly garbage and hates things like vegetables); we'd have to pick a show/movie we'd both like (I'd want to zone out and watch Bridgerton, he'd want a war movie); and I knew he'd want sex.

So I'd sit their feeling resentful because I wanted a salad and a chick flick, but if I went ahead and picked those, I'd hear commentary on how the food wasn't good and the movie was lame. Then at the end of that I had to have sex and make sure he was happy. He wasn't a *bad* guy who demanded these things, but men are overall more socialized to vocalize their opinions and preferences, while women are socialized to accommodate others.[/quote]

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