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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]send an email to the teacher requesting the extension yourself [/quote]

NO, this is the right time and place for the dd to figure out what is right for her. If you do this after talking to her about it; there are many negative consequences even though your intention is positive.

1–your dd will believe you don’t trust her
2–your dd will start distrusting herself
3–if she makes it she will always think “it’s only because I got an extension”
4–if she doesn’t make it, she will learn it’s not the end of the world to not get everything you want or think you deserve 
5–if she doesn’t make it she will know that she needs to do the thing next time to make it work (ask for an extension, practice, etc)

6—it’s a recorded audition so she can record herself over and over again, right? This isn’t a one time thing 
7–she normally practices a lot so she already has the motivation and skill to do  well.

I know you’re nervous because the stroke (wishing you a full recovery), but let her make this decision. You’re setting the road for her capabilities in the future, this isn’t just about music, this is about helping her believe in herself on many levels.[/quote]

This 100%.

While any reasonable teacher would give her the extension, she also still has today and the school week to practice so I see why she doesn't want to ask.

Another thing with my teen is the deadline helps and if she gets more time for this audition, it will eat into whatever music or work she's supposed to be completing next week.

Best of luck with stroke recovery. Please do all the PT/OT/ST. It really does help![/quote]

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