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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you consider the social class background of someone when you’re dating them?

I really wonder if a harmonious match can be made in a cross-class union. An UMC woman married to a LMC man? That wouldn’t end so well!
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Don't do it. I married what I thought was a striver from a LMC background. I thought we'd have similar values since we were both white collar professionals and he claimed to want better than he had been shown growing up. Well, I learned that people revert to their hardwired upbringing regardless of what they profess.

The class envy and gnawing insecurities over what others have, the refusal to live within his means, the inability to value skills-building activities over consumerism (he'd fight me to the death over weekend language classes for the kids, but thought nothing of dropping $10k we didn't have on a three-day Disney trip), the pound foolish mentality (refused to buy higher quality clothes that fit well and lasted a long time and thought he was saving by buying cheaper clothes that he would then pay a fortune to have tailored only for them not to last more than a few months)...all of it was so tiring and ruinous.

I left the marriage a lot poorer but finally understood why my parents' "elitism" was actually just wisdom. The values that different SES families pass on truly are VERY different and they do explain why some people will never get ahead. My younger "progressive" self didn't see that. [/quote]

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