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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and I are DINKs (for now) in the burbs.  We're in our early 30's, new to the area, came to the area for work, and don't have any friends or family here.  We've been in the area for 3 years and have yet to make any friends--we have made a few casual acquaintances through social groups who we might see a few times a year, but no one who we can call to make dinner plans with, or invite to a birthday celebration, or consider a real friend.

Anyhow, I am feeling very sad about the whole lack of friends thing and I'm wondering how to make friends when you're a married couple without kids in the burbs.  We both work full-time, and most of our co-workers are 30 years older than us with families, so they are not interested in getting together.  We joined a church for a year, but found it to be unwelcoming and are looking for another church.  Our neighborhood is not conducive to getting to know people, and since we both work full-time we don't have a lot of time to be out doing yardwork or walking in the neighborhood.  We have only met 1 neighbor since moving here and have found our neighborhood to be quite unwelcoming (we are not in the demographic for our neighborhood, and I think the neighbors don't like us because we don't fit in here).

I would love to have an active social life, but am not sure realistically if this will ever happen for us here.  Pretty much everyone we meet in the burbs either grew up here, went to school here or has lived here for 10 or more years, so their social networks are set, they are already busy with plenty of friends and family, and they are not looking to make new friends.  We have tried meetup.com, different social groups in the area, and we have also volunteered and have taken a few adult ed classes.  The social groups have been the best way to meet people, but even then people in this area are busy and don't have time for us.  Neither of us wants to move back to our hometowns in New England, and we can't think of another city to move to, because I think it would be the same situation anywhere.  [/quote]

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