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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I don't have any actual advice, but I do have some words of encouragement.

My nephew sounds a lot like your son. The middle of three boys, he was the only one who didn't attend college, moved to the city and started living with his older (by 2 years) girlfriend. He drinks quite a bit and does smoke. My sister was very upset that he was throwing his life away and wished he'd taken a more traditional path. After 5 years of being together, he and the GF recently married and both have stable jobs in retail/service profession. They seem pretty happy and support themselves fully. My sister still wishes my nephew would go back to college, but has come to accept that's not what he wants right now. She and my BIL have a pretty good relationship with their son and his wife, and my sister will say that her son is a good person, a hard worker, and just needs to do things his way. It's not what she'd hoped for, but she's really glad she didn't cut off communication or damage her relationship with him. In the end, our kids have to lead their own lives.[/quote]

I wanted to add something. OP, I'd pick my battles with this son. Decide to stay in his life but don't be an enabler. If he wants to quit college he needs to accept the consequences. He finds a way to support himself. Also, if you stay connected you stand a better chance of helping him address unhelathy habits or decisions, like drinking too much. The drinking sounds like something to keep an eye on. Keep the lines of communication open and you may have an opportunity to intervene here if the time comes to do so. Best of luck to you.[/quote]

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