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[quote=Anonymous]Hoping someone here relates or at least understands.

I feel tremendous guilt and frustration. My parents are 90 and 94. Since 2020, I became their default go to person for everything as they were aging. They lived 45 minutes away in my childhood home and I had two kids of my own 9 and 11 at the time. My Dad then had a bad fall and it was nightmare for an additional two years. In 2024, I moved them into an assisted living facility. They did not make this easy.

My mental state suffered tremendously (maybe irrevocably) during this time and I’m slowly coming back to normal but am mostly numb and exhausted. Now I’m am dealing with selling their home. I had everything removed from the house and now construction is taking place to update the house.

My mom is a hoarder and is constantly expecting people to take items from the house that are 30+ years old. She can’t let go of anything. She is stressed about the sale of the home and I’m sure blames me for packing it up and selling it. She has expressed that she understands how much I’ve been put through and feels guilty but not guilty enough to not continually make this a horrible experience.

I’m tired, resentful, and frankly wish neither of them were here anymore. And I love my parents deeply.[/quote]

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