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[quote=Anonymous]Op here. We are all Asians, so it is terrible if one day we have to send them to nursing home. When I say "take care", it means take them to move in our home or/and support them and pay bills financially.

My parents cannot speak English, and they do not have much savings. They are on medicare.  I would say we three children get along really well, so there should be no issue when it comes down to spliting eldercare responsibilities physically or financially when they get too old. They already pay for funeral costs and life savings with us as beneficiaries.

MIL/FIL can speak English. MIL & BIL have marriage crisis, but they would never divorce. FIL has no savings, but MIL has some savings. Both are on medicare. It will come down to either or both BIL & DH to take both in or separate them to take them in. DH does not like them (not my fault), and I cannot imagine they live with us together. Our 2 kids are special needs which have been driving me nuts and crazy and DH is not helping me much on taking care of children. He has no problem support financially, but I hesitate on taking them in to live with us. MIL does not like me or my 2 children that much as well because my 2 kids are not well behaved compared to BIL's kid.

My SIL parents do not speak English, and they are on Medicaid and medicaid. They can drive. Her parents are not my problem, but BIL may have to share the responsibility to take care of them ultimately because his wife is the only child.

My younger brother's wife parents cannot speak English or drive, and they are on medicaid and Medicare. My younger brother has been taking care of them 50 percent by driving them to all appointments or errands etc on solo income. SIL cannot drive and not working. Her parents are not my problem. [/quote]

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