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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I generally have a good friend group of couples that we’ve made over the years. Some of the men in the group are people he knew in college, some of the couples are peripheral to that group that we’ve gotten close to.  I’m closer to some of the wives than others.

There is one couple in the group that moved into the area that is connected to DH’s original friend group through family/community.  The past few years we have done dinners with them, first in groups, then after one on one as a couple.  I’ve gotten to know them and spent time with them one on one, I realize I generally do not enjoy them.  I find them loud and obnoxious.  Sometimes at restaurants the husband will make snide comments to the wait staff.  The wife has done/said some things over time that have rubbed me the wrong way.  I’ve been open with DH about my feelings.

Here is the problem:  The husband will aggressively text me/DH and sometimes us separately to find dates to get together.  I’ve done a good job about saying no, I’m busy/ I can’t commit/ I have a work thing/ DH is traveling, etc.  The guy won’t stop texting to find a date to get together - and then he doesn’t just want to meet at the restaurant.  A couple times we committed to dinner, then day of they said they would stop by our place a couple hours before to hang out and go.  OUR mistake on letting this happen more than once, because now they expect it.

I’ve told DH in no uncertain terms that I really do not want to hang out with them one on one, and especially do not want to host them when they invite themselves over.  At this point, do I just ignore the texts from the husband, given he does not seem to get the hint?  They are still part of the friend crew, but honestly we have known the friend crew a lot longer, and I am generally closer to the women in the friend group than the wife.  I heard from another friend that they have invited themselves over to their house as well, so I may not be the only one that feels this way.  [/quote]

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