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[quote=Anonymous]My sister is mostly NC with my parents (she permits some access between her kids and my parents because my parents are paying for their college and some other stuff), but I am still in contact with them, so I know what they say.

They sometimes just lie and talk about my sister and her family as though they see them all the time. They know enough general stuff from their limited interactions with grandkids to know what's going on.

Sometimes they are open about the fact that my sister doesn't speak to them, but they massage the story a bit so it doesn't sound so bad. Lots of euphemisms and no acknowledging how long it's been or any of the stuff that precipitated it.

With me and our other siblings, who know what's up, they swing between anger/blaming and guilt/shame. So like one day my mom will angrily complaint to me about what a terrible person my sister is, but on another day she will say my sister is her favorite child and admit she screwed up and she's a "terrible mother" and want me to talk her down.

I am LC with my parents and good at setting boundaries around these conversations. I understand why my sister is NC and respect her choice but also think that if she'd practiced setting more boundaries with them earlier on (she was the golden child until she was in her mid-30s and it was the loss of that status that led to the fights and the NC) she wouldn't have needed a clean break to deal with them. I get why she didn't do that, but that is the extent to which I see it from both sides.[/quote]

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