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[quote=Anonymous]We adopted a child from the foster care system at age four. She is now 17. Different than your situation, I know. The main point I would drive home is that, yes, there is a lot of trauma for these kids, but also: their biological/genetic imprint is extraordinarily strong. Just like it is for all of us. This is the part that nobody likes to talk about. We have to work 100x as hard with our child to keep her going down the wrong path as we do with the others. Twin studies and adoption studies have borne this out. It is extremely likely that a child will become very much like their biological parents and not so much like their adoptive parents, even if adopted from infancy, let alone toddlerhood or adolescence. You need to be ready for that. If you are, then you should do it. Any amount of love and protection you can give, any assault you can protect them from, any opportunity you can give is a gift to them. Don't expect anything in return.[/quote]
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