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[quote=Anonymous]Over the weekend I had my first baby, and something just came to light that’s really bothering me.

Last night my sister told me that while I was in the hospital, my MIL apparently turned away a friend of mine who came by to drop off a care package. My sister said MIL was in the hallway near the waiting area and basically told my friend something along the lines of “go, she doesn’t want visitors.” My friend was surprised and left. My sister caught up with her and said she was crying.

For context, I did receive the care package. At the time my sister just told me that this friend had dropped it off, but didn’t mention anything about what had happened in the hallway.

My sister told MIL at the time that it wasn’t cool, but didn’t want to escalate things at the hospital. My friend hasn’t mentioned it to me at all, likely also trying not to create drama.

I’m really upset about it. I was expecting this friend and would absolutely have seen her, even briefly. I also feel a bit foolish because I’ve been very friendly and inclusive with my MIL all week, not knowing this happened.

My husband was immediately ready to call his mom and tell her how inappropriate it was, but I asked him to hold off until I had a minute to think. Right now I feel so disrespected that I don’t even want to see her. At the same time, I know this is an exciting time for her too and I don’t want to overreact.

How would you handle this? Address it directly now? Let it go but set boundaries going forward? I’m also aware I’m freshly postpartum and probably not in the most objective headspace. [/quote]

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