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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you asked her what she's looking for in a husband? [/quote]

Yes, it’s seems unrealistic.[/quote]

How so? [/quote]
It’s a lot..
Believes in soulmates and true love.
1. Wealthy
2. Extremely ambitious and successful
3. Charismatic and outgoing personality
4. Perfect physical appearance
5. The "ideal" personality—someone who meets all her emotional and personal needs
6. High social status 
7. Perfect match in every way (financial, emotional, personality)
8. Perfect family background
9. No flaws in character 
10. Prioritizes her above anyone else
11. Always on the same page[/quote]

Well, she is 18 and those are idealistic criteria. Not a single thing on that list is an inherently BAD thing to have in a partner, just very unrealistic as you said. You can help her understand where her criteria are too rigid or help guide her away from stuff you don't think "should be" a priority in a relationship. You are her mom and get to tell her what you think is important. I personally would be encouraging my daughter to steer away from stuff like "high social status" and "wealthy" but might keep the stuff that is more "career driven and ambitious" in order to prioritize a value of hard work or being financially successful or however we defined it.

Overall, it sounds like she's a kid with a kid list. That's a good reason for her to date people and see how reality matches up to this Disney princess fantasy you've got here.[/quote]

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