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[quote=Anonymous]Context, I have a complicated relationship with my parents. I don't talk to my sibling anymore but I really want to keep some semblance of a relationship with my parents and so that they can see their grandchildren vice versa. In 2021 my parents moved to be about 45 minutes from us and they live down the street from my sibling. I try to see them for each birthday and holiday which ends up being about once a month. My Dad has Parkinson's but is stable and on medication. He is declining slowly. They are both late 70's.

This past weekend, my parents were supposed to come see us for my DD birthday. I offered us to visit them but they insisted they like taking the ride. They were supposed to be here at 11:00am. At 11:00am I get a text saying "just leaving". 45 minutes pass and they're still not here. I'm getting nervous but don't want to call because it can startle them sometimes in the car. Finally at 12:15pm their car gets here. Everyone is excited. When I open the door, it's only my Mom. I get super scared that something happened to my Dad and exclaimed "where's Dad, is everything ok?!". She gets super mad at me and goes "what about me? How about good to see you Mom?". And I was like well of course it's good to see you but is everything ok with Dad? Turns out she had to take him to urgent care in the morning for a bad case of bronchitis and he needed to stay home. She was complaining about this and I said "if you would have let me know, I would have come with you or taken him".

We proceed to have a visit. She brought me all the things in her house that she doesn't want of me anymore: pictures of me she used to hang on the wall, momentos, etc. We have cupcakes for my DD birthday and she leaves abruptly. I asked her to text/call me when she got home to make sure she was okay. She said she would but she never did. So, I started texting her and calling. No response. Multiple calls to both my Mom and Dad, multiple texts, no response. Finally this morning she texts back "ok" to my last text that said "can you let me know you're ok". 2 minutes after she texted I tried calling. I texted asking why she won't talk to me and she hasn't responded.

This is not the first time she has screened my phone calls or done something in this way to me but I'm exhausted and don't know how to move forward or fix it. She blames me for my Dad's health because I don't talk to my brother - which has no correlation, I haven't talked to my brother for almost 5 years. I want to keep this relationship but it makes me so sad and I have so much anxiety about it.

WWYD?[/quote]

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