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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just wondering if you were on the sideline and they did 5 rotations and your child didn’t play. Every other kid had played at least 3 or 4 times (we were missing most of our players and only had 2 subs) would you say something? Rec sport, second grade. I said “my son hasn’t been in” and coach got upset. [/quote]

It sounds like you said something DURING the game, which is why the coach got upset.

Wait 24 hours until after the game to raise an issue.

Depending on the age, the child should advocate for themselves.

NEVER go over to a coach in the middle of a game to ask about playing time, no matter how right you are. [/quote]

Agree you shouldn't ask during the game, but... 24 hours? Come on, people can be adults here.

I would reach out discreetly (as in not in front of kids or other parents) to avoid making it seem confrontational or embarrassing my kid.

But I don't think there's anything wrong with asking after the game or in an email that night, provided you aren't being a jerk and genuinely just asking to understand and not being accusatory.

I would also want to check in with my kid before I spoke to the coach. This would help be gauge my kid's level of upset, if any (if my kid wasn't upset about not playing, I would be far less likely to say anything at all), and also to see if my kid knew an explanation I didn't know.

Also OP said this was 2nd grade, which IMO is too young for most kids to advocate for themselves. Some kids will be able to do that at 7/8 but it's rare, and even those that are ready may not be able to do with with a rec soccer coach, because at that age this is someone you see like twice a week -- there may not be that much rapport there.[/quote]

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