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[quote=Anonymous]As if my nightmare divorce couldn't get any worse. Adult dd lives in another state where my ex happened to be traveling on business. She ended up in hospital - they gave her Narcan and she's ok. She phoned me early in the morning yesterday and I was ready to fly out to be with her and offer support.

Full disclosure I am in recovery for substance abuse and have been sober for several years. My ex filed for divorce after I got sober. He has his own substance abuse issues that he won't acknowledge and I think my sobriety holds a mirror up to his own substance abuse issues that he prefers to ignore.

I didn't want to fly out to force her into rehab but I do want to have a conversation with her in person about her substance use  and just be with her for a few days. I was going to stay at a local hotel.

When she told me her father happened to be in town and was coming to get her my heart sank because I knew, correctly, that he would convince her NOT to speak to me.

I tried to reach her all day yesterday but she wouldn't respond to texts or pick up the phone. Finally in the evening she answered and told me not to bother coming out, that she was fine, that the whole thing was just a silly accident that could have happened to anyone and that she is fine.

I'm in a nightmare state right now where she is now with the one person who won't take this seriously. "Kids do stupid things. She's fine."

I'm just throwing this out to the universe. I texted him last night and said "regardless of the situation between us we need to have a conversation about our child and I need to be kept in the loop." Radio silence from him.

I feel completely powerless over this whole situation. She is young and I don't think she understands that this episode could have killed her, and the messaging from her father is "you're fine! don't worry about the ER bills!"

Anyone have any suggestions for how to navigate this $hit $how? I'm really worried about her and I'm furious with him for minimizing what just happened and being so caught up in his hatred of me that he can't even have a discussion about how we as parents should try to support her.

That's all. Happy Saturday.[/quote]

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