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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Why do I feel like the significant incident wasn't so significant?[/b] What happened?

I would rethink holding grudges life is short perhaps you both just needed a break.[/quote]

THIS. OP, drop details re: this "incident". Was it something the friend did to you personally? Or something you saw them do that didnt involve you directly?

It really sounds like you're holding onto some grudgewank. [/quote]

NP but ignore these posters.

OP, if the incident was significant TO YOU than it was significant in your relationship. When it comes to friendship, the people involved get to decide what matters. It doesn't actually matter if these PPs would consider whatever happened significant. You do, so it is. This isn't court.

A friend who refuses to acknowledge that something they did hurt you and take responsibility for that hurt isn't really a friend.

To answer your question: I do think you should be direct, but I would really think on what you want to say. If you feel this relationship could be repaired if the other person apologized or owned up to their behavior and at least acknowledged that it hurt you, then say that. Though know that someone who has already dug in on not apologizing is likely to double down on it again here. If you feel that the friendship has run its course and you are better off without them, say that. But since you are being direct, take some time to really think about what you want to say. Given their past behavior, I would consider this might be your last communication with them, so think about what you'd like that last communication will be.[/quote]

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