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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Months ago I stopped speaking to someone I had been close to for a long time. There was a significant incident that I found deeply disrespectful. When I raised it at the time, instead of acknowledging it, they doubled down and explained why they were justified. I decided to disengage.

We share mutual acquaintances, so I’ve quietly managed logistics by skipping events where they’ll be and not including them in things I host.

Out of nowhere, I received an email asking if I can “finally let it go” because they “miss me and want to be in my life again.” There was no acknowledgment of what happened and no apology.

I’m honestly more irritated now than I was before. I’m unsure whether to ignore it, respond briefly, or say something more direct. If you’ve been in a similar situation, how did you handle it? How would you respond? [/quote]

Ignoring this seems like a very passive aggressive way of handling a rupture in a relationship that you describe as "close for a long time." It is fine to respond to the email saying that you have been unable to "let it go" and they were unwilling to acknowledge your feelings. If they would like to be in your life, you get to decide what the conditions for that are, but just skipping events and avoiding the issue is not mature. [/quote]

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