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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think the video is talking about people needing to make a huge deal out of every holiday or like put up streamers for the first day of school.

She's talking about families who don't invest in relationships, don't think about others, do things only out of obligation, etc. My ILs are like this and I know *exactly* what she means. I have adjusted to it at this point but yes, when we visit, they will make literally no effort -- no meals planned, they barely acknowledge we are there. If we want to do anything at all, we plan it ourselves. They are just kind of passive.

Whereas I put a lot of effort into parenting and family togetherness, but none of it takes the form of buying lots of plastic crap off Amazon to decorate. We have traditions but they are simple and meaningful, not made-for-Instagram trends. We are also good hosts and like to share holidays with others and think about how to make other people feel good in our home. We put effort into our relationships.

The video is not about having big celebrations for every holiday or making a huge deal out of the first day of school. It's about building relationships and caring about others, which you can do while still have small, intimate holidays or very simple traditions that don't cost money or involve lots of decorating.[/quote]

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