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[quote=Anonymous]OP, the problem here is parsing what is a legitimate concern and what is your baggage.  You have a lot of baggage.  Your father has remarried a woman you clearly don't like and it is coming out in various ways.  I get that you leave long written directions for your babysitters.  Most people don't and it is completely unrealistic for you to expect this woman to "brief" you on her daughter.  I have a son with an ASD and I don't give guests or hosts written instructions nor do I explain strengths and weaknesses.  if I knew he made a mess in the bathroom I would clean it up, but I don't always know.  I once had a man, total stranger, come out of a bathroom and chastise me because my DS made a mess.  It was humiliating and I didn't feel like explaining the situation to this total stranger.  Usually my DS doesn't make a mess, but sometimes he gets distracted.  We're working on it.

Your father and his wife are not obligated to give you a crash course on her daughter, written instructions, books to read. or anything like that.

Deal with the inappropriate behavior directly and politely.  "I don't like to be touched like that."  "I don;t like hearing that kind of language."  I realize its awkward but there's no mystery here.  Communicate how you feel in a respectful way that doesn't demean her.  As PP said, you don't need a manual, you need to get to know her.  or not.

You are making this harder than it is because of your feelings about your father and his wife.  Thats the real issue here and maybe you need therapy to deal with it.

I agree with PP.  As the mother of a child with SN I find the whole "I want one too" to be patronizing.

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