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[quote=Anonymous]My 20s son is not married to his girlfriend who just recently had a 2026 baby. It was not a planned pregnancy so there is a lot of shuffling of chairs going on currently.

She is apparently not getting along with her parental figures in her home and they are making my son feel very unwelcome anytime he comes by, so he has asked me if I can clean out his old bedroom/bath so that she and the baby can have a safe place to stay. I guess “safe” is an actual word here, since there are apparently already heated arguments taking place in front of the baby. (I don’t have any more first hand information about that)

I CAN do this, I just did *not expect* to do this. I would otherwise never let another adult move into my home and establish residency etc. but this is now a different animal. She may just stay here. She may want to come live here once she gets here. Idk.

Pros:

I am alone in my 60s in a very large home that I’m not going to be able to give up anytime soon. 
This baby is my grandchild
I don’t have any adverse relationship with my son’s girlfriend but I don’t know her super well, either
I do have space that is going unused
If I keeled over tomorrow someone would immediately notice
Potential help with upkeep (though I’m not counting on this)
My house is closer to my son’s house so he can see baby more regularly etc.
She does like pets and I have them

Cons:

Learning to live with people all over again after many years doing my own thing
Taking on baby care all over again
All my current life patterns are going to be disrupted abruptly
She will not be paying rent but could still establish tenancy
My son has never “lived with her” so the kind of roommate she could be is still unestablished

I think I need some helpful input. It’s such an emotionally weighted subject I don’t think I can ask anyone else IRL

Thank you for any graciousness in responding[/quote]

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