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[quote=Anonymous]Does anyone else’s DH expect them to handle extra chores while they’re on maternity leave? One of the chores DH typically handles is collecting trash from throughout the house the night before the trash is collected and taking the trash can down to the curb.

Yesterday was trash day, and for whatever reason DH never took the bin down to the curb. He realized he forgot when the truck came by yesterday and told me last night that “maybe you should take the trash out while you’re not working.” To clarify, “not working” = on paid maternity leave from the job where I make 2/3 of our household income.

I think his expectation that I take over one of his chores during this period is, quite frankly, totally unreasonable - especially since it is a chore than cannot be easily performed with a baby in tow. Our baby is two months old and began refusing most crib recently. She took one non-contact nap yesterday, and, while I would have preferred to spend that time napping myself or exercising, I spent it… doing chores. I also was up late cleaning up the kitchen after the baby went down for the night. When I came to bed, DH was asleep with the lights off. And then I proceeded to handle the baby’s night wakings on my own. I just don’t have a ton of extra time to take care of additional tasks around the house right now.

DH has been doing a lot for our older child while I’m occupied with the baby, so I don’t want to give the impression that he’s doing nothing. Even so, I can’t believe he suggested that I take over one of his chores while I’m postpartum. And I think the fact that he clearly believes that I have “extra time” now - even though he is the one who is sleeping through the night and who is able to fit in an hour-long workout every day - bothers me even more than his suggestion that I take out the trash.

Did anyone else’s husband expect them to take on extra work around the house while they were on maternity leave? If so, what did you agree on? Even though this is my second time doing this, but I still find taking care of an infant to be hard work that does not leave a lot of time to get much else done.

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