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[quote=Anonymous]My kids have different SN but they do have social effects and I absolutely try to teach them what is socially appropriate and what is not.  It is part of my responsibility as a parent to teach my children to behave in a way that is socially appropriate and expected, so they will be welcome wherever they go.  Come to think of it, that applies equally to SN and NT children.

In this case, I think OP is very reasonable to ask what language the family uses to clue in her stepsister that the hugging/touching has gone too far.  In our family, we sometimes say "you're in my bubble," as the kids have learned that everyone has a personal space bubble around them.  This works only if there is background learning to go with the shorthand, so it's fine that OP asked about it.  It's too bad that the family hasn't provided that to their daughter.

Ditto the urine.  Perhaps this stepsister could be taught to check the floor herself?  If she is high enough functioning to have a job, I suspect she could.  OP, could you tell HER (not your dad or stepmom,) "Jenny, would you please clean up the bathroom floor when you're finished?"

Finally, even if you're out of luck on the details (no easy way to get her to back off or to clean the bathroom), I don't think it's right for your dad to tell you to be just accept it and be grateful your kids don't have disabilities.  Stepsister is still a human being, and that attitude smacks of patronization and dehumanization - like, you're not allowed to have human feelings about her, only pity, because she's not a full person.  Baloney.[/quote]

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