Reply to What is the best response I can make to this massive setback?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "What is the best response I can make to this massive setback?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I’m really spinning my wheels and struggling as I am at a cross point in my life. I’m a year away from turning 40 and the past decade of being a thirty something has been…kind of one long nightmare where nothing I had worked towards or hopes for worked out.

-my primary goal was to marry the love of my life and build a beautiful marriage and family life with 2 kids.

- home ownership and financial stability. Work hard and set down roots in a nice house where our kids will grow up and where we will have family gatherings.

- career that is lucrative and I like what I do and I’m competent in my field.

The man I married ended up having pretty severe Peter Pan syndrome coupled with some mental health issues along with alcoholism as a way of self soothing. He did not have a professional career and put all family goals on hold so he could figure out his life. By the time we TTC I had pretty bad fertility issues and needed IVF. He started cheating on me while I was doing IVF and then walked out. This was 3 years ago.

I walked away from my marriage with half of my retirement and received nothing from him as he has no assets. At least he didn’t ask for alimony!

So here I am a year from 40, my youth and fertility behind me with nothing to show for it.

As if this isn’t bad enough, my sister whom I was pretty close to and who is only 4 years younger than me…has had the traditional picture perfect 30s.

She married the love of her life in a beautiful wedding.

She is happily married and got pregnant at first try and gave birth to the most beautiful baby!

She is pregnant again and they moved into a nice 1.5 million house in a coveted zip code.

In addition to having doting husband and children she is quite good at her work and is doing okay professionally!

It’s so hard and painful to see her succeed at everything I wanted and failed miserably at. I don’t want to constantly be in her shadow and constantly resent her. What can I do to chart a new path for myself so that I can actually love my life and myself and not just feel like I’m the failure and she got to live the life I wanted! 
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics