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[quote=Anonymous]I wasn't quite sure the forum to put this in. My stepson has been in my life for almost 20 years. He's currently 25. We had a good relationship when he was a kid and young teen. There was a rough period, for everyone, in his late teens due to some mental health/addiction issues, but he really got his life together, got back to school, got into treatment. For the past five years, he's been a successful grad student and just really happy in his life.

Anyhow, his final year of grad school is an internship. He got his third choice, which is in our city. I'm really happy for him.... but... he wants to move back in for a year.

I think it will be nice for our family. It's also my youngests last year at home and they are really close, so it's great for her too. But I'm anxious about having another "adult" in the household.

For the past 5 years, I've really treated him like a guest when he's been here. Cooked all meals, of course paid for everything, cleaned up after him, did his laundry, all his dishes. Even just rolled with my personal pet peeve - parking in driveway and blocking my car when street parking is easy.

Here's the thing. I know my husband. He won't set any "rules"

Has anyone had an adult kid move back in under these circumstances? He's really a wonderful person. But I'm not sure I can take a "guest" for a year. To be fair, my husband does just as much, so it's definitely not all on me. But I know, after a week or two, it already wears thin when I'm down in the basement collecting dirty dishes or getting texts with grocery lists. I'm not sure about a year![/quote]

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