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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this were me, I would tell him either he lives at home and commits himself to his studies, or he pays for college himself, with his 30 hour/week job.  Of course, he could just as easily lash out and drop out of college.  He sounds like he has little to no self control, which I guess is common in guys his age, but in addition the teenager-esque tantrums and asking you to rent him an apartment after he failed and lost his scholarship just because he "hates" living at home suggests that he's very spoiled on top of that.  He seems to know that he has control over you in this situation.  Are you willing to let him fail in the short term, or would you rather prop him up for a long time only for him to fail a little later?  Your choice.[/quote]
Thank you! That's what he told us - he wants to drop out of college, his "boss did not go to college and did well". This "inspired" my son to drop out. You are right about absence of self-control - he cannot refuse himself anything. 
I see your point but it's impossible to say no to him! If I  say no money - he'd beg, cajole, plead until I give up. My husband is so scared to "lose" DS that picked a strategy of being "buddies" so he can find out what's going on in DS's lig=fe.
Our  older daughter was a goody-goody child (she's 12 years older): never asked for money, put herself through college, read a lot, did fun things, We were younger, she was our first child and as a result we were much stricter with her.  DH is very conservative, so no boys were allowed in the house, she was not allowed to live in the dorms, etc. She respected our rules and listened, but the son does not care and we don't know how to react. At the same time, our son turned out sweeter, kinder person than daughter.  [/quote]

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